Basa, kudzidza kana kugara nevanhu vanobva kune dzimwe nyika Hazvichisiri chinhu chinoshamisa, chave chiitiko chezuva nezuva. Kusiyana kwetsika kwapinda mumahofisi, muzvikoro, mudzimba dzinoshandiswa nevanhu vakawanda, uye mumapurojekiti emunharaunda.uye inogona kuva sosi yekudzidza ine hutsinye… kana sosi yekusawirirana kana ikasagadziriswa zvakanaka.
Kana tisinganzwisisi tsika dzevanhu vakatipoteredza, kusanzwisisana, kushushikana, uye kusawirirana kusingakoshi kunomuka. Kusiyana neizvi, patinodzidza kutaurirana netsika dzakasiyana-siyana neruremekedzo, kuda kuziva uye kuzvitsoropodzaKugara pamwe chete kunowedzera kugadzikana, kushanda kwechikwata kuri nani, uye hukama hwevanhu hunokura.
Chii chatinonzwisisa maererano netsika uye nei zvichikosha zvikuru kana tichigara pamwe chete?
Tisati takurukura nezvemaitiro nemazano, zvakakosha kujekesa zvatinoreva patinotaura nezvetsika. Tsika itsika, tsika, zvitendero, tsika, uye nzira dzekutaurirana dzatinogovana nemapoka akasiyana.uye izvozvo zvinopesvedzera maonero atinoita nyika uye matsananguriro atinoita zvinoitwa nevamwe.
Hazvisi zvenyika yawakabva chete. Tsika dzedu dzinosanganisirawo zvinhu zvakaita senzvimbo yevanhu, chitendero, murume kana mukadzi, zera, basa, dunhu, kana kunyange zviitiko zvehupenyu., se vatama, kunge aive muchiuto, kunge airarama muurombo, kana kuti kunge ari weboka repakati nepakati.
Saka, munhu wega wega iboka retsika nemagariro evanhu: Tinogona kuva, panguva imwe chete, vakadzi, vekuLatin America, vekirasi yebasa, vanaamai, vatendi kana kwete, vagari vemumaguta, vadzidzi, vatambi...uye zvese izvozvo zvinoumba zvatinoona sezvakanaka, zvakarurama, kana kuti zvine ruremekedzo.
Kuziva nezvemusanganiswa uyu kunobatsira zvikuru: Kana tikanzwisisa kuti tsika dzedu dzakatiumba sei, zvinova nyore kuona nekuremekedza kuti tsika dzevamwe dzakavaumba sei.Kuzviziva ikoko ndiyo nhanho yekutanga yekuwirirana pakati petsika dzakasiyana.
Kudzidza kubva kune dzimwe tsika: kuda kuziva uye kuda kusanganisa
Kana tichida kushanda kana kugara pamwe chete zvakanaka munzvimbo dzakasiyana-siyana, hazvina kukwana kungo "shivirira" vamwe: Unofanira kunge uchida kuziva tsika dzavo, tsika dzavo, zvavanotenda, mitambo yavo, nzira dzavanobatana nadzo uye dzavanoshanda nadzo.Kana tiine mamiriro ezvinhu akawanda, ndipo pachava nemukana mudiki wekukonzera kusawirirana kusina musoro.
Tinogona kudzidza nenzira dzakasiyana-siyana. Kuita tsvakurudzo yedu mumabhuku, zvinyorwa, kana zvekushandisa paindaneti kunotipa hwaro hwakanaka hwedzidziso.Asi kutaurirana zvakananga nevanhu vanobva kune dzimwe tsika ndiko kunotivhura maziso zvechokwadi.
Zvinobatsira zvikuru kushandisa mukana upi zvawo wekuswedera pedyo: kupinda mhemberero dzetsikakubvunza nezvezvinorehwa nedzimwe tsika, kuratidza kufarira kwavo kupemberera mazuva chaiwo
Zvakakoshawo kuti utsunge kubuda kunze kwedenderedzwa redu ratinojaira. Joyina kirabhu yemitambo, sangano remunharaunda, boka revanhu vanozvipira, kana imba inogovaniswa nevanhu vanobva kune dzimwe nzvimbo. Idzi inzira dzakajeka dzekutaurirana nevanhu vakasiyana-siyana.
Zvisinei, kuswedera pedyo kunoda kuzvininipisa: Hamufanirwe kunge muri nyanzvi yetsika dzemumwe munhu kuti muvabvunze mibvunzo, asi zvinokurudzirwa kuteerera pane kutaura, kusapa zvidzidzo, uye kubvuma kuti pane zvinhu zvatisinganyatsonzwisisi.Maitiro iwayo anowanzogamuchirwa zvakanaka.
Kuziva tsika dzedu nerusarura rwedu
Vanhu vazhinji vanotenda kuti "havana tsika", sekunge zvinoitwa nemunhu zvakajairika uye "tsika" ndizvo zvinoitwa nevamwe chete. Muchokwadi, tese tine tsika nemapoka akasiyana-siyana ekutsvaga akaumba mafungiro edukunyangwe tingasavaziva nguva dzose.
Chiitwa chiri nyore ndechekumira wozvibvunza kuti: Chitendero changu chii (kana kuti kusavapo kwacho), rudzi rwangu, dzinza rangu, rudzikirasi yangu munharaunda, maonero angu panyaya dzepabonde kana kuti hunhu hwangu, basa rangu, zera rangu, mamiriro angu ekumaguta kana ekumaruwaUyezve, ndakamboshanda muchiuto here, ndakambosangana nematambudziko, ndakawana ropafadzo dzezvehupfumi here?
Mazita aya haatsananguri zvese, asi Zvinotibatsira kuona kuti hatisi vanhu vasina kwavakarerekera kana kuti "vanhu vose": tine mafungiro akasiyana, rusaruro, nzira dzekunzwisisa simba, mhuri, nguva, kana kusawirirana. Zvinouya kwatiri zvichibva ipapo. Uye mafirita iwayo ane simba pamaonero atinoita vamwe.
Saizvozvowo, zvakakosha kuongorora rusaruro. Tose takaisa pfungwa dzisina kunaka pamusoro pemamwe mapoka kuburikidza neterevhizheni, majee, mashoko emhuri, kana nhau dzine divi radzakarerekera.Kuziva kuti varipo hakuiti kuti tive vanhu vakaipa, asi kunoita kuti tive nemhosva yekuvabvunza.
Nzira inobatsira ndeyekusarudza boka ratinowanzo taura nezvaro uye Nyora pasi chokwadi kuti pfungwa dzipi dzinouya mupfungwa dzedu patinofunga nezveboka iroroWobva wafungisisa kuti pfungwa idzodzo dzinobva kupi wodzienzanisa neruzivo rwechokwadi uye kutaurirana zvakananga nevanhu veboka iroro.
Ruremekedzo, tsitsi uye kuteerera: hwaro hwekugarisana kwemarudzi akasiyana-siyana
Mumamiriro ezvinhu akasiyana-siyana - kambani, chikoro, sangano risiri rehurumende, pekugara pamwe chete - kuremekedzana hakuchinjiki. Kuremekedza zvinoreva kusamanikidza tsika dzedu senzira chete yekuita zvinhu uye kudzivisa kutonga vamwe nemaitiro edu..
Tsitsi ndiyo chinhu chakakosha chinowedzera: kuzviisa munzvimbo yemumwe munhu akakura aine macode akasiyana, mutauro wakasiyana, tarisiro dzakasiyana, uye hukama hwakasiyana nemasimba Zvinobatsira kutsanangura maitiro ayo, anoonekwa kubva kunze, angaita seasinganzwisisike kana kuti asina ruremekedzo.
Chishandiso chikuru pano kuteerera zvine kushingaira. Kuteerera zvine hungwaru kunosanganisira kuteerera zviri mukati, matauriro, mutauro wemuviri, uye kunyarara, pasina kupindira, pasina kukurumidza kusvika pamhedziso, uye pasina kungofunga nezvezvatichapindura..
Kubvunza mibvunzo isina mhinduro inobatsira zvikuru: Pane kuti titi "Handinzwisisi," tinogona kuedza kuti "Ungatsanangura zvakawanda here?" kana kuti "Unozviona sei mumhuri yako?"Izvi zvinopa mukana wekujekesa uye zvinodzivirira mumwe munhu kuti asazvidzivirire.
Uyezve, muhupenyu hwezuva nezuva (semuenzaniso, mudzimba dzinoshandiswa nevanhu vakawanda kana kuti mudzimba dzekugara pamwe chete) zvinokurudzirwa kubatanidza izvi nezvibvumirano zvinoshanda: Mitemo yakajeka ine chekuita nekuchenesa, nguva yekuzorora, kushandiswa kwenzvimbo dzinowanikwa vanhu vakawanda, mitemo yevashanyi, kana kunwa doro zvinobatsira kudzivirira kusanzwisisana. uye siya mukana mudiki wekududzira tsika.
Kutaurirana kwetsika dzakasiyana: maitiro, kunyarara uye mutauro usingashandisi mashoko
Hadzisi tsika dzese dzinotaurirana nenzira imwe chete. Mune dzimwe tsika, kutaura zvakananga uye kujeka zvinokosheswa; mune dzimwe, kutaurirana hakuna kunanga, kutaurirana kunoshandiswa kudzivirira kusawirirana, uye mamiriro ezvinhu anotarisirwa kupedzisa meseji..
Kusiyana uku kunotokanganisa kunyarara. Semuenzaniso, munharaunda zhinji dzeAsia, kunyarara muhurukuro hakusi kunyadzisa, asi chiratidzo cheruremekedzo, kufungisisa, kana kungwara.Izvi zvinoitikawo mune mamwe misha yemuno kana madzinza echiApache, uko kunyarara kunogona kuratidza rugare, mwoyo murefu, kana kudzora.
Mune dzimwe nzvimbo dzemuAfrica, Kunyarara chinhu chemazuva ese pakukurukurirana: munogona kudya pamwe chete musingatauri, kunyanya kana paine vaenzi, uye hapana chinoitika.Kune munhu wekuMadokero anotaura zvakawanda, izvozvo zvingaita sezvisinganzwisisike kana kuti zvakatoipa.
Nyika dzeNordic dzakadai seFinland kana Sweden mienzanisowo yeizvi: Kutaura nekuda kwekutaura kunoonekwa sechiratidzo chekushaya simba, nepo kunyarara nekuteerera kwakanyarara zvichiratidza simba neruremekedzo.Vanhu vanotaura kana vaine chekutaura, uye vanonyatsoteerera zviito zvemumwe munhu uye maitiro ake.
Zvisinei, munzvimbo zhinji dzekuMadokero, Kunyarara kwenguva refu kunowanzoita kuti vanhu vatye, avo vanowanzovapa chero mashoko kuti vasanzwa kusagadzikana.Kana tisingazive nezvekusiyana uku, tinogona kutsika mumwe munhu, kumubvisa padivi, kana kutsanangura kunyarara kwake sekusagadzikana.
Saka, pakutaurirana netsika dzakasiyana-siyana, zvinokurudzirwa kuderedza kumhanya, kudzivirira kutaura zvisizvo kana kuseka kwakaoma kushandura, uye Teerera zviratidzo zvisingataurwi: kutarisa, chimiro, daro remuviri, kubata maziso kana muviri, uye mafambiro emaokoZvose izvi zvinoreva zvinhu zvakasiyana zvichienderana nekwakabva munhu mumwe nemumwe.
Tsika dzemagariro evanhu, murume kana mukadzi uye hupenyu hwezuva nezuva mukugarisana
Kugara pamwe chete mudzimba, dzimba dzekugara pamwe chete kana mapurojekiti ekugara pamwe chete kunounza pachena zvakawanda zvakasiyana-siyana zvetsika. Zvinhu zvakaita sekuti murume kana mukadzi, chikafu, kusetsa, kana kunwa doro zvakazara netsika dzisina kujeka dzinogona kukonzera kusawirirana. kana vasingataurirane kubva pakutanga.
Nezvebonde, semuenzaniso, Vamwe vanhu vanoda nzvimbo dzakasiyana kuti vanzwe vakasununguka (dzimba dzekugezera, makamuri ekurara, nzvimbo dzekuchinjira mbatya), nepo vamwe vachiona sezvinhu zvakajairika kugovana zvinhu zvese.Hazvisi nyaya yekuti ndiani akarurama, asi yekuona pokuti hapana anonzwa kuti akanganiswa.
Kicheni inzvimbo imwe inopisa. Mumba imwe chete, munogona kuwana vanhu vanobika zuva nezuva, vamwe vanongotenga chikafu chete, avo vanotevedzera kudya kwechitendero, kwemiriwo kana kwevegan, uye avo vanodya zvese.Kana mafiriji, makabati, uye purogiramu zvisina kurongeka zvakanaka, kukweshana kunovimbiswa.
Izvi zvinoshandawo pakusetsa nedoro. Jee risingakuvadzi mumwe munhu rinogona kubata nyaya dzinonetsa mumwe munhu nekuda kwenhoroondo yake kana zvaanotenda.Uye "kunwa doro risina mhosva" kunogona kuva dambudziko kana mumwe munhu akarega kunwa doro nekuda kwezvikonzero zvechitendero kana zvemhuri.
Nzira yakanakisisa yekudzivirira izvi ndeyekutaura nezvazvo kubva pakutanga. Gadza mitemo isinganyanyi kukosha ine chekuita neruremekedzo, ruzha, mhemberero, vaenzi, majee anoshanda, uye kunwa doro Zvinobatsira kuti pasave nemunhu anoshamisika, sezvo munhu wese achiziva zvekutarisira kubva kune mumwe.
Kusiyana kwemaitiro ebasa uye mapoka emarudzi akasiyana-siyana
Mumakambani, kusiyana kwetsika kunonyanya kuonekwa mukunzwisiswa kwenguva, hurongwa, uye kushanda pamwe chete. Mune dzimwe tsika, kubata nguva chinhu chitsvene uye kunonoka kunoratidza kusaremekedzana; mune dzimwe, purogiramu dzebasa dzinochinjika uye hukama hwevanhu hunotora nzvimbo yekutanga kupfuura nguva..
Mabatirwo evane simba anosiyanawo. Kune dzimwe nzvimbo apo kubvunza pachena munhu mukuru kunoonekwa sekusaremekedza, nepo mune dzimwe nzvimbo munhu wese anotarisirwa kupa pfungwa dzake nekutsoropodza pachena.Izvi zvinokanganisa zvakananga maitirwo emisangano uye maitirwo esarudzo.
Mumapoka evanhu vane tsika dzakasiyana-siyana, kusawirirana kunogona kuitika pamusoro pezvinhu zvidiki: Munhu anotaura zvakananga angaonekwa seane hasha; munhu anotora nguva yekupindura angaita seasina chokwadi; munhu anodzivisa kusawirirana anganzi haana kujeka..
Chinokosha ndechekuziva kusiyana ikoko sechinhu chiri muchikwata kwete sezvikanganiso zvemunhu. Kana zvikatarisirwa zvakanaka, maonero akasiyana etsika anova sosi yekuvandudza zvinhu zvitsva, kugadzira zvinhu zvitsva, uye kugadzirisa matambudziko.nekuti zvinoisa patafura nzira dzatisingatombofungi nezvadzo.
Nechinangwa ichocho, sangano rinofanira kukurudzira kudzidziswa kwetsika dzakasiyana-siyana, mitemo yakajeka, uye nzvimbo dzakachengeteka uko nyaya idzi dzinogona kukurukurwa. Ziva zvakajeka uye koshesa kusiyana-siyana, gadzirisa nzira dzekutaurirana, uye kudziridza tsitsi uye kuteerera zvine kushingaira. Zvinoderedza kusagadzikana uye zvinovandudza nzvimbo yebasa.
Kugadzirisa kusawirirana mumamiriro ezvinhu ane tsika dzakasiyana-siyana
Muzvikwata zvine vanhu vanobva kwakasiyana-siyana, kusawirirana hakusi kukundikana kwehurongwa, asi chinhu chinowanzoitika pakugarisana zvakanaka. Musiyano uripo pakuti tinovaviga here, tinovashandisa zvisina kunaka, kana kuti tinovashandisa semukana wekudzidza pamwe chete..
Kune dzimwe nzira dzinoshanda zvakanaka. Chekutanga ndechekuti Ziva kusiyana kwetsika kubva pakutanga wozvikurukura usingazviiti semutambo.Zviri pachena kune mumwe munhu zvingasava pachena kune mumwe zvachose.
Chechipiri ndechekutarisa zvinodiwa nebato rega rega kwete pazvinzvimbo. Bvunza munhu wese kuti chii chinomunetsa, chii chaanoda kuti anzwe achiremekedzwa, uye chii chaanoda kurega. Kazhinji zvinovhura zvakawanda kupfuura kuedza kuziva kuti "ndiani akarurama".
Zvinobatsirawo zvikuru kuwana zvinhu zvamunofarira zvakafanana: chinangwa chakafanana cheprojekiti, chishuwo chemamiriro ezvinhu akanaka, kuda kudzidza, kudiwa kwekuti basa ribudirireKubva ipapo zviri nyore kutaurirana mhinduro apo munhu wese anohwina chimwe chinhu.
Uye, zvechokwadi, zvakakosha kudzidza kubva mukukonana kwega kwega: Ongorora zvakakonzera izvi, zviratidzo zvipi zvakafuratirwa, kusanzwisisana kwetsika kwakaitika, uye zvatinogona kuita zvakasiyana panguva inotevera.Saka, kusawirirana hakuchavi kungorwa chete asi kunova chinhu chinovandudza zvinhu.
Zvishandiso zvinoshanda: zvibvumirano, mabasa uye mubatanidzwa
Kuti zvese zviri pamusoro apa zvisarambe zviri zvepfungwa chete, zvinofanira kushandiswa nemazvo. Chimwe chezvinhu zvinonyanya kushanda ndechekubvumirana pa "mitemo yemumba" - chaiyo kana yekufananidzira - inotsanangura zvinotarisirwa maererano nekuchena, purogiramu, ruzha, kushanya, kutaurirana, uye kugadzirisa kusawirirana..
Chimwe chishandiso chine simba ndechekugadzira zviitiko zvinogovaniswa. Rongai chikafu chine dingindira apo munhu wese anouya nechikafu chinobva kunyika yake, kupemberera mitambo yetsika dzakasiyana, kuronga kubuda kwemapoka kana maworkshops kuti vagovane hunyanzvi Zvinoumba hukama, zvinoputsa mafungiro evanhu, uye zvinovhura hurukuro dzinokosha zvikuru.
Zvakakoshawo kubvuma kuti tichakanganisa. Mukugara pamwe chete kwetsika dzakasiyana hazvidzivisiki kukanganisa, kushandisa mashoko asina kunaka kana kusanzwisisa chiito.Chinhu chakakosha kukwanisa kukumbira ruregerero, kuteerera chikonzero chakaita kuti chimwe chinhu chikugumbure, uye kuzviona sechiitiko chekudzidza, kwete sechiitiko chega chega.
Chekupedzisira, zvakakosha kudzidza kuva shamwari. Kuva mubatsiri zvinoreva kusatarisa kune rumwe rutivi patinoona mashoko erusaruraganda, rusaruraganda, kana ekuzvidza tsika, uye kuda kupindira neruremekedzo kuti timise zvinhu izvozvo.Avo vanonzwa kutsigirwa panguva idzodzo vanovimba neboka zvakanyanya.
Mafungiro aya ese—kuda kuziva, kuzviziva, kuremekedza, kuteerera zvine kushingaira, kuchinjika, kuda kudzidza kubva mukusawirirana, uye kuda kuvaka hukama—zvinoita kuti zvikwanisike Kugara pamwe chete nekushanda pamwe chete pakati petsika dzakasiyana kunova nzvimbo yekukura kwemunhu nekweboka, pachinzvimbo chekuva chinhu chinogara chichikonzera kusawirirana uye kuneta.
